Last time on the TBD Adventures, I checked off my first scary bucket list item: auditioning for The Vagina Monologues. Riding high on that confidence boost, I tackled something that was even further outside of my comfort zone: I rushed a sorority.
Before I got to college, I had never even considered participating in Greek Life. Based on the stereotypes I absorbed from film, TV, and various news articles, I decided I was not someone who belonged in a sorority. I didn’t fit the mold physically or socioeconomically. I wasn’t particularly outgoing or social. And I was highly suspicious of a selection process that seemed to be based more on appearances and social connections than finding people who shared the same set of values.
But, this semester I rushed, and after accepting a bid from my top choice sorority, I am now a brand new member of Greek Life. Pretty quick turnaround, huh?
This all came about through some friends I met. Over the course of the semester, I got to know a few girls who had rushed, and to my surprise, they didn’t seem like your stereotypical sorority girls. They loved Greek Life and encouraged me to rush. According to my new pals, the process was eye-opening and would crush the stereotypes I had in my mind. And... they were right! I learned so much about Greek Life and made so many friends through the process. Rushing was beyond worth it.
Rush taught me so much. As my friends predicted, I quickly found that my pre-conceptions about sororities were incorrect during the Informals (at my school this is when you learn briefly about each sorority). And, I finally figured out the differences between each of the sororities on my campus: Each sorority has a different focus, whether it's a motto/mission or type of philanthropy. And they each have a different vibe.
And, as a spring transfer student who knew no one, rushing was a great way to meet people. I now see lots of familiar faces when walking around campus and I now have some incredibly close new friends that I met through our experience rushing together.
3 big things I learned during rush:
- My university has local sorority chapters. The main day-to-day difference between local and national sororities is size. But this is an important distinction to understand, as national sororities have large governing bodies and larger alumni networks. I love my local sorority just fine, though.
- Pro-tip for those introverts: Spring rush is smaller and less hectic than rushing in the fall. It's easier to get to know people and to relax.
- Rushing is a lot like speed dating. At some of the events, you are trying to get to know as many people as possible and they are doing the same with you and you want everyone to have a good impression of you. It’s a lot of stuff happening. So, you should relax, have fun, be yourself, relax again, and take advantage of all those delicious baked goods they have at the events.
I am so happy and proud of myself for ticking this item off my TBD Adventures list. Rushing was something that I always secretly wanted to do, but I never did it in previous years because I had so many reservations. I believed the stereotypes about Greek Life. I felt like I would be so awkward and just clearly not fit in. Also, the social aspect of it scared me. I am horrible at small talk. Indeed, this was a scary bucket list item.
But, despite all of my reservations, I did it! And you can, too. I do think that rush is something every college woman should at least consider doing. The speed dating aspects of it allow you to meet people and will push you introverts out of your shells, in a good way. You don't have to join a sorority at the end of it - you can give it a try to see if it's for you. And, you never know. Maybe you will find an organization where you feel completely at ease and can see yourself calling your home. I did, and it feels amazing.
More Tips & Info on Rushing a Sorority:
Here at CF, we've covered rushing a sorority in detail over the years. If you want more information, look no further than these articles:
- Rush Tips: The Dos and Don'ts of Sorority Recruitment
- The Ultimate Guide to Sorority Recruitment: Part 1 and Part 2
- How to Dress for Sorority Recruitment in Winter
- What Should I Wear... as a Sorority Girl?
What do you think?
Would you ever consider rushing a sorority? Are you involved in Greek Life? Did rush bring you outside of your comfort zone? Let's talk about all things Greek in the comments!