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My boyfriend has finally graduated! Apart from me, his whole family will be there as well. Now, I will be meeting them for the first time. Please advise me on how to dress accordingly. I’m open to any of your suggestions. Thanks.
Dressing for one milestone event in a relationship can be tricky, but when you have two at once — in your case, your boyfriend’s convocation and meeting his family — it can feel like an even bigger challenge to figure out what to wear.
Luckily, dressing for a convocation and dressing for meeting your boyfriend’s family aren’t too dissimilar; they actually have a lot in common. For example, for both events, you generally want to make sure that you wear something a little nicer (but nothing too formal; think business casual-ish), and also that your outfit is “family-friendly”; that is, something that’s on the covered-up side (which in this case means no super-short skirts, skin-tight dresses, cleavage, exposed undergarments, etc.).
So, although it may not seem like it at first, you’re actually left with a lot of outfit options! Here, I’ve put together four looks to inspire you; what’s more, they are all made up of pieces that are pretty easy to find (in fact, you may already own similar things already).
Ready to see them? Just keep scrolling!
Products: Shirt Dress – J.Crew Factory, Flats – J.Crew Factory, Hairband – Nordstrom, Earrings – Nordstrom, Ring Set – Revolve, Bag – ASOS
For the first look, I decided to put together something that’s on the preppy side, but that also incorporates several fun and feminine elements which prevent it from looking stuffy or plain.
To get the look, put on a pretty ruffled burgundy shirt dress made from a flowy fabric, and pair it with a bow hairband for a classy, elegant vibe.
Next, add rose gold pavé heart earrings and rings, which I chose because they go well with the bronze-y color of these adorable glittery pointed-toe Mary Jane flats, and also because they pop against the color of the dress.
Grab a vintage-esque mock-croc satchel, and you’re all dressed to impress!
Products: Dress – Zara, Earrings – Nordstrom, Tights – Gap, Bracelet – Nordstrom, Bag – Zara, Heels – Gap
This look is more subdued than the first, and is a good option if you suspect that your boyfriend’s family is more on the conservative side, fashion-wise.
Begin by putting on a classic belted tweed dress with a flattering, waist-accenting belt; then, put on a pair of black polka dot tights for a subtly sophisticated way to mix prints.
Mid-height block-heel pumps are a good way to (both literally and figuratively) elevate your ensemble without going over-the-top, while a forest green chain-strap bag is the perfect way to add a touch of color to the outfit.
Since this look is already quite subtle, I decided to go bold with this pair of granny-chic drop earrings, whose color scheme fits in perfectly with the rest of the look.
Lastly, since even subdued outfits deserve a little sparkle, add a bangle with small crystal accents, and you’re good to go!
Products: Blouse – Everlane, Skirt – Zara, Tights – Nordstrom, Earrings – BaubleBar, Bracelet – BaubleBar, Necklace – Bloomingdale’s, Bag – Zara, Heels – Zara
If you’d prefer to wear separates to your boyfriend’s convocation instead of a dress, then you’ll want to wear something similar to this classic and easy-to-wear skirt ensemble.
To start, tuck a pretty silky blouse in the softest shade of pink into a timeless black pleated skirt.
You can’t go wrong with opaque black tights, so put on a pair to add a streamlined touch to the look.
I decided to have a bit of fun with accessories to liven things up a little: Metal tassels put a modern twist on a classic bag shape, while dangling crystals take a dainty gold necklace to the next level. Similarly, sparkly stud earrings and a cute cuff bracelet with stones in shades of pale pink and white put a youthful spin on things.
Finally, a pair of kitten heels in a trendy leopard pattern is the ideal way to show off your fashion know-how while still keeping things appropriate for the occasion.
Products: Top – J.Crew, Earrings – Revolve, Bracelet – Bloomingdale’s, Heels – Mango, Bag – Nordstrom Rack, Pants – Zara, Blazer – Zara, Eyeshadow – Stila
Because not every girl is a dress/skirt person, I chose to include an outfit based around pants that still looks every bit as elegant as the previous three ensembles.
For this look, I decided to play around with textures by styling a timeless pair of herringbone trousers with a more delicate-looking lace top.
Tweed kitten heels and a gorgeous quilted designer bag (currently retailing for under $100 at Nordstrom Rack!) lend very sophisticated touches to your look, while continuing with the texture-mixing that you have going on with the pants and top.
A chic collarless blazer keeps things modern, while pretty drop earrings and a quirky faux-pearl cuff bracelet add further visual interest to the outfit without being distracting.
A softly shimmery eyeshadow (that’s super-easy to apply!) completes this chic look.
I hope you have fun at your boyfriend’s convocation, and good luck with meeting his family; I’m sure you’ll do great and look amazing, too! Thanks for your question!
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What do you think?
What would you wear to go to your significant other’s convocation and meet their family in the same day? Do you have any more advice for subtly spicing up more conservative looks? Do you prefer to wear dresses, skirts, or pants when you have to dress up?
Let me know in the comments!
13 thoughts on “Ask CF: What Should I Wear to My Boyfriend’s Convocation?”
Haha, yeah I can’t imagine any girl wearing these to class! But maybe a toned-down version for a party or something, could be cute.
excuse me? bunny ears when its not halloween or at the playboy mansion? huge NO.
Wouldn’t that cover up the board for the people behind her? Lol!!
Maybe for Halloween 😛
^^ totally wear theeem they look so cutee, but definetly not for school! =/
Totally agree, MK&A can rock anything.
I think that its fun to push the limits in fashion, but if I wore these to class, people would think I was a joke, and I doubt I would be taken seriously in other aspects! I would wear them to a party though of course.
At first I was thinking a big NO, but the headband you linked to, and probably the scarf that was the inspiration, are really cute! The height definitely means it’s not classroom wear, but I could see it even as daytime wear (as long as it looks mostly like a scarf, rather than a costume piece).
Back in highschool when I was confined to an extremely drab uniform I used to wear a hairband with cat ears on it all the time, mostly just to be different, so I don’t find this trend all that radical.
I think it’s really cute. Probably not class appropriate (college or highschool – bunny ears can run on the tall side and people behind you may not find that oh so cute) and definitely not work appropriate, but for a night out with the girls? Sure why not! Fashion is supposed to be fun 🙂
Sorry that seems a little too Halloween-ish. Now I have another option for a costume, though. Thanx!
Seriously? Bunny ears? You’re kidding, right?
I am DYING to own a pair. No joke. I would wear it all the time. The large ones are a little much considering they’re about half my height, but the headband? Seriously, I’m either saving up or figuring out a way to DIY this.
nah, no way.
I think the bunny ears idea is really cute but not wearable at all. If I saw a girl wearing these on my campus I would think someone was a little too excited for Halloween. Low key versions may be cute though.