Tapioca pudding. Goats. Watching PBS documentaries about the British Royal Family. The color pink. Being a huge fan of Kim Kardashian. These are things that I have been embarrassed to publicly admit that I like for fear of being ridiculed or judged. But this week on The TBD (To Be Done) Adventures, I've decided to embrace all parts of myself. And that means admitting to a couple million of my fellow college students that hey, I love the Kardashians. I'm a Kim fan in particular, but I think they are all amazing. And I'm going to tell you why.
I am sure you've heard that Kim Kardashian posted some nudes on the internet a few weeks back. You couldn't have missed it; people had LOTS to say. And on International Women's Day, Kim wrote this amazing piece about the whole thing on her website. Why is this relevant here? Because I am going to talk about why I think Kim Kardashian is actually a good role model. (I can feel the haters spitting with rage now!) Bear with me: I am not saying I think people should necessarily aspire to make sex tapes and appear on reality shows. But TBH, I don't think those things were Kim Kardashian's dreams as a young girl either. And even if they were, it's irrelevant now; she's actually about SO MUCH MORE than those things.
I admire Kim for many things, but first and foremost for her confidence. She doesn't care what anyone says or thinks about her and completely embodies the phrase "you do you". This is SO important for women. How many people do you know that are 100% openly themselves and not embarrassed by any part of their personality? DEFINITELY NOT ME. I feel embarrassed about how much I love tapioca pudding! (Some explanation: At some point, everyone seemed to decide it was an old lady thing and that it's disgusting, so I decided to tell people I didn't like it either.) It's my favorite dessert, guys, and I lied about it for years! Kim puts every aspect of herself out there to the entire world. That takes major guts.
It's hard to have confidence in yourself sometimes. It's a journey that we all go through as adults. And with the Kardashians, I think it's pretty freakin' admirable that they're so confident... especially when everyone in the world wants to dissect and criticize every last thing that they do. Whenever people talk about the Kardashians, people salivate at the thought of criticizing them. It's an amazing transformation: Perfectly normal people morph into ravenous hyenas at the mere mention of a family that has literally done them no wrong. I hope I can someday feel 1/10th as comfortable and confident in my skin as the K's seem to be.
So that's the first part: being empowered. Kim is a role model because she encourages others, like me, to also be confident in themselves. This doesn't necessarily have anything to do with sex tapes or nudes. Kim isn't saying you have to do those things to be confident, she's saying that you should do those things if they make you feel good, and you shouldn't be ashamed of that.
The second part is business. Kim's mobile app makes bank. She has a bajillion beauty and clothing lines. She knows how to succeed at business. And if you watch KUWTK, you can see this entrepreneurial spirit early on. Kim re-sold purses on eBay for profit at a teenager! Um, I was pretty much just eating cookies in front of the TV at that age. I couldn't have even conceived of a business idea, let alone believed in myself enough to follow through with it. But had I been a Kim fan back then, maybe I would have dreamed and achieved more as a teen. Anyway, if a young Kim K can do it, so can you, ladies. We've all got brains. Achieve that dream! Nurture that entrepreneurship. Seriously, we desperately need more women in business and leadership positions. Let's celebrate Kim's business success instead of tearing her down for not achieving it in the typical, (boring) cookie-cutter way.
Again, I'm not saying Kim is a role model because she posts nudes on the internet or takes a lot of selfies or rocks a ton of makeup and contouring. (That's another whole article, by the way - why do some women judge others for having fun with beauty?) Kim is a role model because she continues to pursue her dream of being a businesswoman and is unapologetically herself... despite millions of people slut-shaming her and calling her empty-headed and every other insult in the book. She has more negativity and vitriol thrown at her every day than any of us will ever experience, and she manages to succeed - and wildly so - in spite of it.
In the end, Kim Kardashian teaches women that you can do what you love, do what makes you feel empowered, embrace your sexuality/body, and shake it off. 'Cause haters are gonna hate. Who cares if people think you don't have anything to offer to them? Prove them wrong. Develop that app. Create that Etsy business. Buy that dress that makes you feel like a million bucks. Contour every day if it makes you feel like an empress in the hallways of your school or office. The ability to have that confidence in yourself is something I hope we all obtain. And that's why I love the Kardashians, especially Kim.
So what do you think?
Are you a huge Kardashian fan like me? Are there things you love that you've felt you couldn't talk about publicly? Tell us in the comments, let's be honest with each other!