Growing Up & Out: Dealing with Changing Social Circles

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Growing up, we all grew out of clothes and shoes so quickly that we probably did not get to wear all of the cute stuff our parents got us when we were newborns. That favorite pair of sandals you had in the 5th grade were exposed to the world only twice before your feet grew another size and a half.

We also grew out of ideas as we aged - maybe you remember the day you realized that your mom was a real live person and not just a mom. I surely remember it!

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Well, like we grow out of clothes, sometimes we grow out of people, too. That may sound like a bad thing to say, but it's true. In middle school you may have grown out of the group of friends you had been with since preschool. After high school, you may have grown out of your friends from home and moved on to friends that you met at college. It's perfectly natural as we get older... promise!

At this point in my college career, my friends have shifted from the people I met my first semester to the people in my classes. For the last 2 years, I have had the same group of people in class, so we were bound to become friends at some point. It's a different type of friend circle, too - it's less "Hey, let's hang and watch trash TV" and more "Let's go to lunch and talk about life and stuff". So weird, but I like it.

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Your friends may not "get" it, your family might not understand why you haven't talked about so-and-so in a while, but rest assured that your itch for a change is not nutty. At a certain point in your life, you may want to surround yourself with people who are moving forward in the same direction as you. Doing something, if you will.

That phrase, "You are what you eat." is similar to "You are who you surround yourself with." If you eat nothing but junk food and candy, your body will not be very happy. If you surround yourself with people who are not supporting you in doing what you want to do or being who you want to be, deep down, you will not be happy.

If you never study for a test in a subject you are not the best in, you won't get the results you want. But if you put in time and effort to study, you're more likely to make a grade you're happy with. Right? Similarly, if you don't work to surround yourself with people that will help you and believe in you, it can be difficult to grow as a person.

Overall, life is so much easier (and more enjoyable) when you are surrounded by the people who don't weigh you down, and who inspire you to be the best person you can. So, while your lifelong friends may be awesome, if they aren't helping you towards being the absolute best person you can be, it may be time to re-think your surroundings.

And if all else fails, remember what our girl LC said on The Hills, "... at this point I would so much rather have, like, a few good friends than a lot of fake friends." Preach.


Have you ever grown out of your group of friends? How did you handle it? Have you had the same group of friends forever and can't imagine ever letting them go? How do you deal with major life changes? Leave a comment and let us know.

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