How To Deal With Fashion Haters
It’s one of the more discouraging things that comes along with being a fashion trendsetter - dealing with people who just don’t get fashion.
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When I was working on the article about What To Wear To Class, I realized that some people are extremely judgmental about the topic, to the point of ridiculing others who don’t dress the way they do.
Unless you live in New York City or another fabulous area that’s full of diversity, it’s likely that you’ll encounter people that don’t understand the things you wear, or who criticize your fashion choices.
Here are some tips on how to deal with this negativity while staying fabulous and true to yourself.
Always be confident in your fashion choices.
Wear things that you love, and make sure you KNOW that you look fabulous at all times. This sets you up with a basis of confidence that will help you combat any negativity.
If you know deep down that you look great, then criticisms won’t get to you. If you’re doubting yourself on some level, any little criticism will shake you up. Don’t let that happen!
Realize that it’s not about you, it’s about them.
It sounds cliche, but it’s just true. People who hate on your outfit are just reacting out of fear, because they don’t know how to deal with people who don’t follow the crowd. Also, it’s very likely that they completely don’t understand fashion, and the idea of self-expression through clothing.
At the end of the day, though, that’s their problem, not yours! Just because one person doesn’t get your style, it doesn’t mean others won’t. And is their opinion really important anyway? I say no, and you should too.
Ignore it & forget it.
Even if it’s hard to do, don’t let any of their comments into your head, and definitely don’t let them into your memory! If you love a fabulous vintage dress for example and you feel great in it, then whatever anyone else has to say is irrelevant & not worth your attention.
Negative attention is better than no attention.
Celebrities say it all the time - any press is good press! It’s really true in this case. If you’re fabulous enough to cause a stir with someone, you can bet that you stand out in a crowd. That’s a great thing! Would you rather blend in to the background? In fashion, it’s always better to be noticed for your look than ignored completely.
Keep doing your thing.
When someone has something negative to say, don’t allow it to make you change what you’re wearing. If you like how you are, stay true to that, in fact, go even further away from their idea of how you should dress.
Choose your company carefully.
If one of your friends is constantly hating on your quirky clothing choices or making you feel bad about being yourself, I think you need to re-evaluate your friendship! Surround yourself with people who love & support you - they’ll like you for who you are, and won’t put you down.
Your thoughts?
How do you deal with people who don’t get fashion, or who are judgemental about your outfits? Let me know your tips for keeping the haters at bay in the comments.
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I was one of the first, if not the first person to wear skinny jeans in my high school. People made fun of me behind my back (I heard them). A year later, most of those girls were wearing skinny jeans + their boyfriends were too. Don’t let haters get to you!
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WOO BRIANAAAA, right on :) i dont care about what people say, they usually start catching on, coincidence? i think not.
Dang skippy. Most of the time I wear pretty sedate things, but once in a while I bust out something awesome. My college is unfortunately well loaded with princesses who live and die by the code of the Juicy velour sweatsuit, so their opinions don’t bear a lot of weight with me. I wear what I love!
this is such a good article! i grew up in a small, suburban town where it is entirely usual for 5 girls to come to school wearing the same outfit on the same day. luckily, my friends totally respect all my fashion choices and even go a litle crazy themselves sometimes… it is nice to read something like this to help me stay positive (and i’m also luckily going to college in new york this year) =]
For any of you doubters out there, just realize that just having your outfit being seen on campus will decisively influence how another person dresses! Whether or not she (or he!) likes your outfit, it will still sway their fashion decisions for the better or for the worse. You are contributing your fashionology to society, and that, everyone, is wonderful. What we consider to be “in fashion” is only what’s currently popular as thought of by the general public, and what do they know anyways?!
So dress how you want to dress- comfortable, classy, trashy, whatever! As long as YOU are the one choosing the outfits, not influenced by your low self-esteem bubble, it’s OKAY.
Don’t be fooled by the haters, they’re only jealous!
SO true. It’s usually just jealousy, and I find the best response to be no response/looking more fabulous than them! :)
hi…
great blog
I don’t let people bother me about my fashion choices (I’m one of the few people who does not wear the hollister/a&f/ae uniform) but what am I suppose to do about the people who criticize my body?
I’m naturally really thin and only have size 32A boobs, and I know I won’t get any bigger than this. You can change your clothes if you feel the need to fit in, but what does one do about the criticism and hate they receive over something they cannot change?
I think that if someone is paying enough attention to what you wear to comment, it means they’ve noticed and you’ve made an impact on someone (may it be negative or positive) based on your choice of clothes. And really, that’s what fashion is about. :)
ps. Great blog!
Let me begin by saying - I LOVE THIS SITE!!! New found gem <3. I just started college and I’m having fun experimenting with my old fashions and stuff that’s more comfy to be carrying stuff and walking around in. Finding new ways to be fierce!
Anyways, back in high school, i was ALWAYS fashionable. I had and always have my own sense of fashion, from wearing dresses when no one else would since it was way too “girly” and “uncool”, to wearing ribbons as accessories or high heels! I don’t care! I mixed and matched, wore berets ALL the time, and made myself look tomboy cool one day, while feminine chic another. Girls would always be catty and say crap like “where are YOU going all dressed up like that?” and other rude comments. I was seriously one of the only people who ever dressed up for school, and I didn’t mind, I loved standing out. A lot of the time, I felt the teachers respected me more and I would get a ton of compliments. Soon enough, those same catty chicks were trying to wear dresses, berets, high heels and everything that I started first. I wore a suspender dress one day in December and though I got looks down the hall, I didn’t care. By April, I saw three girls with look alike dresses. It’s all about confidence. Seriously, if people are going to hate, they won’t bother to understand. It would be awesome to live in NYC where anything goes and everyone’s fierce, but if you’re not there, carry the attitude as if you were! I’m in the SF bay area right outside of SF actually, but if your not in the city, it’s true, it’s hard to avoid the stares. I have learned not to care, some people just don’t care or bother to look put together and fabulous, and that’s on them. I’d rather be chic than lame in some a&e or pj’s!!
(Sorry for the rant xD!)
I COMPLETLY ah-gree with Tara & Ashley. I have the same problems! =(
Love the blog! I studied in Paris for a while and it was total fashion overhaul for me. When I came home I was rockin all sorts of fashions that were fine on Parisian streets or in the metro but were so out of place back at my university. I really had to decide that I was just going to be different because I loved my new style so much, and I definitely had to learn to put up with some weird looks and catty remarks and be like, since when did the fashion police relocate to nowhere, USA?
I feel like this happens a lot in my school, but I decided to no longer care and this guide reassures that! :)
omg I totally agree!! I live in a town in the middle of nowhere in Mexico and girls just don’t wear skirts/dresses/hats! I do, because they’re so comfortable an dpoeple stare and stare. Fortunately, they’re getting the hang of my style, and I receive compliments all the time, but it was so hard at first.
Great site, by the way <3 Love it!!
I have the exact same prob as Tara and it sucks!! This blog is fab, it really is!! I always got stares whenever we had ‘tracksuit Days’ in secondary school (high school) and whenever I go into town but I have become immune to it. If those people want to remain boring and do whatever the majority is doing then fine, but they shouldn’t take it out on those who do their own thing!! Keep up the fantabbytastic work!!